People come in and out of that house since her baby dad sells drugs and I’m worried for my nieces and nephews. I was talking to my sister in late November and she said unless her husband got a raise they were going to have trouble making the janUary payment for my niece and nephews orthodontic treatment. It has nothing to do with your relationship to your nieces and nephews. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Ok like I said in the post, I did not pay for my friends meal when I asked her out to lunch. ' But go complete NC with the rest, there is nothing they can offer you, but a hell of a lot they can take. ie: "I'm not paying the $200 tab (if anyone should pay it's you who invited us). Maternal instinct is NOT always automatic. My niece and I (I thought) don't have a transactional relationship. My sister (28F) put together a big birthday party for my niece's first birthday. I entered their lives when they were 7 and 5. I am 100% onboard supporting my parent (financially and personally) through this battle with cancer. I really wanted to stay in our home, it's where I raised our son (David, 17M), and we found a way to make that possible. Judgement_Bot_AITA Beep Boop • 1 yr. So AITA for not going to my nieces baptism being a significant event for my sister and maybe for her baby? I’m not religious so it doesn’t mean anything for me. Ultimately, my issue is not with you but with the modern exclusion of children from everyday life, with weddings being the best example. If you’re a homeowner, you pay municipal property taxes at a rate determined by your municipality but generally you can average it out at about 1% of the home’s assessed value per year. You were told this would extend the cats life with 2 extra good years, not cure the cancer. I didn't want to pay that so I told Milly that I think I forgot my wallet (and therefore my card) even though I had it. Then block him. You say you have never offered to pay for, or chip in to pay for a meal in your 5 year long relationship. Bringing a spoiled brat in that will disrupt the point of the party is just plain rude to the child and the hosts. But it may be worthwhile to express you feelings to your niece - maybe she will come to understand the correlation between her behavior and your withdrawal. Now I dont have those sources of income. Then, she started taking sales from our other peers, even though she knew it wasn't her area. The now-viral Reddit post, titled, "AITA for lashing out at my brother and SIL for dropping their kids off at my place even after telling them not to," has been upvoted. If it was your friends' plan to throw you a dinner, they would be the ones paying for you. I told my sister (33f) about the plan and invited her to join. I (49) have two stepchildren "Leo" (19m) and "Adam" (17m). There were times where I wasn’t allowed to talk to boys but I still found a way. OP is just starting her career, not stable enough to do the raising and fending of the cousin at the same time. I was his primary caregiver during his illness, and ended up quitting my own job to take care of him full time for the last 10 months of his life aprox. NTA, my mom when she was in her early 20's, she was dropped down into a similar situation as you OP. that would be abuse and if the state took custody of your sister they would make sure she got treatment and probably pay for it if they terminated parental rights. The brother was an AH to ask for it at the funeral. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. A couple months ago, my mother asked to talk to me. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Judgement_Bot_AITA Beep Boop • 1 yr. 45 votes, 22 comments. lilwildjess • Partassipant [3] • 8 mo. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I stopped giving my niece with cancer money for her bills and treatment. My mom offered to pay if I would go, so I went to make her happy and she paid. You are in a serious long term relationship with your girlfriend, but you and her family are not close. While I don't feel comfortable giving the exact amount, I will say that I gave their mother around 40% of the overall policy. Yeah I’d hate to be sick and have my kids get it but more often than not those adorable little germ monsters gave it to me. there's some nasty backstory they're not telling. Mom and such can celebrate Christmas Eve with your niece. My parents were asking the girls if they were excited for their upcoming birthday's, and if they were having parties this year? My daughter told my parents she is having a Formula 1 themed party this year. With her job as a bus driver, she would have been able to keep her house and continue to raise her high-functioning autistic daughter. I want to preface this by saying that I have a healthy relationship with my nieces and my nephews, and they are not that angry over this, it is more my siblings. If someone else does her hair- it will still not look like it did before cancer- and her complaint will be- ‘OP would have done a better job, but she refused to do it’. OP, just for heaven's sake do NOT name the BIL and sister trustees. He lived in another country with his wife and 5 year old son. My family (everyone from my moms side) invited me out to eat at a restaurant. She paid for a bouncey house (for the older kids), a magician, and a double tiered cake separate from the smash cake. Heck, there aren’t even commercials that make it look good. He has a daughter 'Davina' (18F) from his previous marriage. Not so for one redditer who asked, ‘AITA for refusing to pay my BIL [ brother-in-law] for babysitting my daughter?’. Any adults that attend are there to help corral the kids. One woman on the AITA subreddit tried to explain this somewhat-lopsided metaphor (but you catch my drift, yeah?) to her family, and got reamed for it. 31 paź 2022. It was his nephew Anthony's birthday. Cancer is a scary word - no one looks at the difference between a melanoma with 97% survival rate and no lasting damage and 50% survival bone cancer. IVF is expensive. I know I was wrong for cheating, that's not my question. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I was going to pay my sister back the Money I owed her after stealing from her a few years ago, but she kicked me out of her wedding when I. Maybe suggest making monetary donations that will actually help your family member through treatment instead of a pointless act of vanity. I don't do favors for her. Come on! This is exactly the shit that AITA always does: Trying so hard to look for even more drama than we already have. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I stopped giving my niece with cancer money for her bills and treatment. It’s really sad your mom is sick. The daughter is the responsibility of your sister and her ex (the kid's father). My niece is staying with me for October, November & December while her dad sorts things out. Read this before contacting the mod team. NTA- Apparently your sister has become your mother. Do keep a lookout on the day of the party, your mother might still appear at the party uninvited. She’s been your step niece for 10 years! Do what you want with your money, but giving for one and not the other is definitely an A-hole move when you’ve been an uncle her whole memory. You don’t need to subject yourself to emotional harm and manipulation, regardless of the age of the perpetrator. If she babysits 2 hrs per day, twice a week she winds up spending 4 hours per week babysitting. I tried to be more sympathetic with her, one of the comments suggested I could help her look for scholarships or help fill out paperwork, loans, etc. Her cancer has spread/progressed beyond control and there’s nothing else anyone can do for her. I am currently the legal guardian of my two nieces – Mandy (F17) and Steph (F15). 2) His children did not get any money. If the owner resists, it's a scam. AITA for not wanting to pay for a seemingly free meal. Even though my niece has not been the best, she is still my family and it has always meant a lot to me. grandmakathy63 • 1 yr. Me not wanting my daughter to do an English degree is not because I'm sexist but because I want her to do something useful which she can live off instead of depending on me for the rest of her life. Disney is such an important part not only to us, but also our marriage. My sister (f25) lives across country and was visiting. The Reddit user explained that her sister has two kids — a 2-month-old and a 2-year-old — and often asks others to help take care of them. I told her to stop but she continued to make these kinds of jokes. Being young and not wanting to inconvenience the restaurant staff, we always did one check. "Throwaway because my family, friends, co-workers, and spirits of my ancestors use reddit and I don't want them to find this. For now I'm completely cutting off communication with her and my maternal grandmother as well. These aren't even your kids. Unfortunately when we went in for our 9week ultrasound and we’re told it wasn’t a viable pregnancy. She also has hEDs and POTS. WIBTA for not paying for my twin sister’s cancer treatments? Throwaway for privacy. I know it's not really a "necessity", but it's something I want. I don't have any children nor do I want any. I’m in my 20’s and in college, I used to work part time but I ended up quitting to focus on school and to a lesser extent babysitting. Should it come to that, I wish you a smooth transition. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I left my nieces birthday party because of a rude comment my brother-in-law made about something positive we taught my autistic son. Not to honor your nieces existence. They had financial difficulties and my niece really wanted them but they couldn’t afford them. My family still consider this 'my' room, that's what my parents and siblings all say when they refer to the room. Unfortunately when we went in for our 9week ultrasound and we’re told it wasn’t a viable pregnancy. which would be fair & reasonable. We're not relatives. My (19M) older brother’s (32M) 7-year-old daughter, Meadow, started losing her hair due to chemotherapy for stage 4 neuroblastoma around a month ago. Humble_Cupcake_9561 • 8. Now I dont have those sources of income. Edit: just like another comment said, she is teaching her daughter that accepting abuse and settling for shitty men that treat you like crap and humiliate you is ok. Welcome back to another Reddit AITA thread! Today's post is: "AITA for giving skincare to my 13 year old niece?So long story short I am a 27 year old woman w. My sister (45F) has a daughter Jess (18F). He already owes them 5 figures. This is a support group for people raised by abusive parents (with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders). This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. Then, she started taking sales from our other peers, even though she knew it wasn't her area. They pretty much demand their sisters to do even the most basic things for the, and when they try to refuse, their parents get mad at them. My nieces boyfriend - “Jake” 27M. He had moved back to his parent's hometown which is 2 hour drive away. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. You may be buying a house with a shared history, but you are still buying a house, the deed will be transferred to you and no one else. The fact that you visit her means you are consistently trying to achieve a good consequence. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. In addition she wants us to pay for treatment and all living expenses. Paying off the entire balance is overstepping a little bit. yes, absolutely. AITA for moving away from my nieces and nephews? Not the A-hole. It is not a research study, and there is nothing to be accepted into. The fact that you visit her means you are consistently trying to achieve a good consequence. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Three years later my father passed away from cancer before he could finish paying off this debt. My mom offered to pay if I would go, so I went to make her happy and she paid. When they come over, I usually just hide in my room and do some work. One woman on the AITA subreddit tried to explain this somewhat-lopsided metaphor (but you catch my drift, yeah?) to her family, and got reamed for it. If they are not interested, they can just say no. My niece (12) has always wanted to be a doctor for as long as I can remember. If one invites the other to date, they are saying they are interested in getting to know the other person and hopes the other person is also interested in getting to know them. On top of all this, all she talks about is her percentage of my sale and when she's getting "her money". you can be a good aunt without paying for your nieces and nephews to do fun stuff. People shouldn’t expect others to pay for adoption fees or IVF. We're still really young (19 and 20) but it's a family tradition of his to get married young and his family is incredibly strict on tradition, and I have always respected these traditions because they have never harmed anyone and is something that's been in their family so long they can't even remember how the. My sister (28F) put together a big birthday party for my niece's first birthday. And I'm not speaking to my maternal either grandmother until she apologizes as well. If your cat is going to die anyway within the next few years, at an age that is quite young for a cat, you might as well let him keep some quality of life. Their mother is currently in jail and will be for the next 10 to 15 years. Your sister should have been paying you for all the childcare, she has been majorly taking advantage of you. I was supposed to receive a 3500 bursary and I had some student loan income to help pay for expenses. She paid for a bouncey house (for the older kids), a magician, and a double tiered cake separate from the smash cake. The now-viral Reddit post, titled, "AITA for lashing out at my brother and SIL for dropping their kids off at my place even after telling them not to," has been upvoted. It came to around over £60. Call of Duty: Warzone Hollow Knight: Silksong. That said, OP is NTA. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to. Give your daughter the money and let her pay of her student debt that she definitely has because of you. The fact that she's your mother probably heightens things. When I got home and shared the food out, the niece that went to the bakery with me crying screaming throwing up throwing tantrum saying that she wanted my. They then called my bf to accuse him of influencing me to be greedy with my own family when I should be paying for my sister’s full tuition amount. We have a (2F) daughter who has alot of food allergies (mostly egg and dairy) When we go to in laws or anyones house for an extended time, I will bring her food/snacks because my in laws don’t cook anything that doesn’t include dairy, and also most snacks they purchase contain something she’s. I have 2 parents and 2 siblings neither of whom have kids. We're still really young (19 and 20) but it's a family tradition of his to get married young and his family is incredibly strict on tradition, and I have always respected these traditions because they have never harmed anyone and is something that's been in their family so long they can't even remember how the. And we were never happier. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. OP can't win. In addition she wants us to pay for treatment and all living expenses. I was also surprised that I had been charged full price for the sundae ($10+). She’s getting treatment but I don’t think it’s working well. Then, she started taking sales from our other peers, even though she knew it wasn't her area. It’s itchy and hypersensitive. It doesn't even have to be forever if you don't want it to be but you do deserve time to yourself to heal without the expectation to provide anything to those who've harmed you. Jun 15, 2022 at 11:46 AM EDT By Amanda Spence Off-Platform Staff Writer A woman has found support online after her brother and sister-in-law claimed she should "refund them monetarily" after she. Your family needs to respect you, your work, and your responsible use of government property. The only activities/entertainment are things that are interesting for the kids. So, this whole thing started about a year ago when our previous nanny quit. Step 4: Wait for you to decline because you hate it. Hospitals have programs for people that can't afford to pay. They also came up with a solution for music and decorations. He willing to contribute and help. She isn't seeing what she is doing to her own children. But if you’re a middle-income earner (60-80K CAD/yr) with no deductions, you pay tax at a rate of approx. My sister makes minimum wage and is a single mother. Your child is 6, unless he's regularly interacting with these relatives, he's not going to miss their participation. ” Maybe it meant doing what you did, and carrying a small balance. which would be fair & reasonable. We all waited in line for 45min for the local ice cream place and I got my daughter one cone, and my niece one cone. She made very good money (6-figures in the USA) and still had issues making rent (~10-12% of her salary) so would ask me (who had made less at the time) to "help her out. There were times where I wasn’t allowed to talk to boys but I still found a way. Distraught, I left her in the restaurant by herself and did not pay my portion of the bill. I'm pretty new to this forum, so I don't know if we do trigger warnings here. Time is what matters. ago From the comments: YTA You said her payments got cut off but what you actually meant was "Parents did contribute before, but I went back to college and they're paying for that now". If it's a trial the family doesn't pay anything. In the past she has asked me to grab lunch only to turn around and tell me to watch them while she runs errands. EDIT: I should've written this originally but it went over my head that it was important to note. The kids may not get it now, and want to open up gifts but I’m focused on creating memories with my nieces and nephews vs spoiling them. While recovering, my niece said that I would pay off the bill, if she bought my. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Here’s your script for “Dad”, via text: “I’m sorry you have cancer. I started dating my wife Natalie two and a half years ago, and we have been married for seven months. i can’t expect the world to stop moving for my own comfort. I asked for separate bills so I could pay for mine and our grandfathers (He is an elderly man so. I entered their lives when they were 7 and 5. I feel like I had a valid reason and his excuse was just that he didn’t feel like it. Absolutely agree and the parents have a responsibility to pay and OP doesn't. Soon after the divorce, my father (76M) was diagnosed with cancer. So, my sister's daughter was recently diagnosed with a serious medical condition that requires extensive treatment . But between then, my niece gave hers to my daughter so my daughter would go first. Step 3: Offer you his dish (that he knows you hate) in exchange. OP is just starting her career, not stable enough to do the raising and fending of the cousin at the same time. For now I'm completely cutting off communication with her and my maternal grandmother as well. My F,33 sister F,36 passed away a month ago because of cancer. Apparently I'm a selfish asshole for making it impossible for her to go to her dream school. A couple days ago I was talking to my brother in discord. As my city has a reference hospital for cancer treatment across the country, my husband and I agreed to. We were talking about the family when he brought up my Niece L. And teaching him to appreciate those things too. When you're working for free, you're giving away the money a paying customer would. My mom died of cancer 2 years ago and she and dad started dating 8 months after. My mom didn’t treat him well and he cut contact with her when he turned 18. If your siblings aren't contributing to the purchase or renovation of the house, they aren't entitled to the profits from the sale. Now, obviously, they shouldn't be working 6 hours in the barn for a thirty minute lesson. When I got back in my way home I got some food for us but I didn't get anything for my niece. They invited you. do not beat them, hit them, slap them, do not lay a finger on your daugter, but you need to teach her that she cant scream and fight her way out of situations. I got my first bmt august of 2015 and it was a failure. I (22F) have been dating my (24m) bf for 5 years. My (19M) older brother’s (32M) 7-year-old daughter, Meadow, started losing her hair due to chemotherapy for stage 4 neuroblastoma around a month ago. It's not your job to pay for your niece's college tuition, doesn't matter whether your children got scholarships or not (of if they aren't biologically your children and "the same" as your niece, according to her). I know my wife has some but I am not completely sure of it. It’s an unfortunate reminder that her parents aren’t here to do it for her but that doesn’t mean she’s alone. She still avoids work, and is not doing anything to better her situation. Tell the SS that he can use all the money your sperm donor never sent to your mother for child support to pay his father's medical bills. She had a baby, it's nobody else's responsibility to take care of HER child. It has a lot of my stuff in it, old decorations, etc. A few weeks ago, my niece started making jokes about me being “just half a man” and things like that. My mom died of cancer 2 years ago and she and dad started dating 8 months after. OP, you need to seriously rethink the marriage and this relationship in general. She also has hEDs and POTS. You are not her caregiver or legal guardian. If she does take them in and you stay with her, you’ll grow to resent her and if she decides to stay with you instead of taking them in, she’ll resent you. For now I'm completely cutting off communication with her and my maternal grandmother as well. NTA - you said no, and you shouldn't drive the niece because it's not safe. This comment is a record of the above post as it was originally written, in case the post is deleted or edited. NTA-I would say if you want to be square and feel the $185 was a legitimate cost towards your dog then pay that but not the penalty. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: the action I took that should be judged is how I don’t want to pay for nieces expenses if she were to join my family’s trip 2) this might make me the. It happens that we went out with my mother-in-law to have an ultrasound for my pregnancy and she decided to buy them some hats as an early Christmas gift, it seemed good to me and she brought a hat to each of. Also with me not working, my husbands pay check covers Essential items and sometimes going clothes shopping for our kids, which is rare in itself. My wife usually has a caregiver, but not 24/7. I don't take her out to lunch or buy her Christmas presents. prunepizza • 1 yr. I would say you should at least repay the $185. ie: "I'm not paying the $200 tab (if anyone should pay it's you who invited us). Not to honor your nieces existence. It was a pretty expensive place, but I agreed. OP can't win. My daughter (16) Megan just finished her cancer treatment, she's lost her hair in the process and she's been incredibly insecure because of it. The now-viral Reddit post, titled, "AITA for lashing out at my brother and SIL for dropping their kids off at my place even after telling them not to," has been upvoted. Yeah I’d hate to be sick and have my kids get it but more often than not those adorable little germ monsters gave it to me. This year they moved back to our country. Like sure, you don't have to pay for my cancer treatment, but you do realize that's going to impact our relationship going forward. It's devastating and words can't express how we feel. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. they’re your nieces, it’s your sister you’re choosing to help, and it’s your house that you pay rent for. Time is what matters. ' But go complete NC with the rest, there is nothing they can offer you, but a hell of a lot they can take. I always supported them financially and made a college fund for my niece. Step 3: Offer you his dish (that he knows you hate) in exchange. I got my first bmt august of 2015 and it was a failure. AITA for not paying my brothers IVF treatment? Background information: My brother (42m) and his wife (45f) have been trying for a kid. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. In the future, take your nieces out to special events and give them experiences with you. Found the internet! 8. The son can start looking for paid care for his mother if he is inclined to. She suffers from incontinence. It's how you make a living. It doesn't even have to be forever if you don't want it to be but you do deserve time to yourself to heal without the expectation to provide anything to those who've harmed you. In state tuition is $3000. My father's wife had a 3 year old daughter who a year into their marriage was diagnosed with a form of cancer that is tricky to treat. I’d charge your BIL and SIL $45 an hour (4 children + their ages =$$$) minimum 40 hours a week and maximum 50 hours. best adult website, sexual lick
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That was so wild to learn. That said, OP is NTA. NTA, but still allow your nieces over and don’t change your behavior. She kept complaining about her bills, but she never changed her behaviors. That’s a sad truth too. Tell her you've done all you can but there's nothing more you can give and that you would like receipts so you can claim them on taxes or some bullshit excuse to see what she does. They had announced their engagement privately to my husband and me, and after the initial excitement, they said they had something important to talk to me about. I know it's not really a "necessity", but it's something I want. level 2. 2M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. Her daughter and her niece were born 10 days apart, she said in her original post. You are not obligated to cripple your finances to pay for a non-immediate family members medical care. I'm just going to be direct and quick. My daughter is getting married in spring next year. And while the girls may have shared the day. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think that I might be the asshole because I do want what’s best for her but I also think what’s best is for her to get to know us as well. 19 lut 2022. It doesn't even have to be forever if you don't want it to be but you do deserve time to yourself to heal without the expectation to provide anything to those who've harmed you. Pack a lunch and go to the public library for the morning. This thread is archived. prunepizza • 1 yr. If you’re not family entitled to keep the heirloom in their opinion, you shouldn’t have had to pay for the funeral expenses. I want them out of my life. If it's a trial the family doesn't pay anything. I'm just going to be direct and quick. Part of me want to blame my older sister for moving away after the argument, but I’m honestly not sure what to think. I told her to stop but she continued to make these kinds of jokes. The whole point of me taking my nieces out is to bond with them. Any adults that attend are there to help corral the kids. 28 cze 2023. I am 100% onboard supporting my parent (financially and personally) through this battle with cancer. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. My mother lives a couple hours away and hasn’t been a major fixture in my life for about 10 years. Every year since my nieces were born, I have had the issue with my sister. It was his nephew Anthony's birthday. You have no idea what your sister meant by “having trouble. She's also disabled and has to go to a lot of doctor appointments and treatment sessions at the hospital. She’s been taken off treatment, and we’re letting her just be a kid while she still can. The 23-year-old uncle prefaces in the popular "Am I. With her job as a bus driver, she would have been able to keep her house and continue to raise her high-functioning autistic daughter. Paying off the entire balance is overstepping a little bit. These aren't even your kids. Read this before contacting the mod team. My sister (28F) put together a big birthday party for my niece's first birthday. 7M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. I just wanted to come home and do my usual routine. My wife (45F) and I have always treated her like family and we give her things equally to the others so that she doesn't feel left out. He was my only parent, mom was never in mine or my sister's life. Because of this, my parents became almost completely absent from my life, as my sister spent a lot of time in the hospital or undergoing chemotherapy. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. It happens that we went out with my mother-in-law to have an ultrasound for my pregnancy and she decided to buy them some hats as an early Christmas gift, it seemed good to me and she brought a hat to each of. And teaching him to appreciate those things too. You don’t need to subject yourself to emotional harm and manipulation, regardless of the age of the perpetrator. Like I said, I am willing to pay just to keep the peace and my niece may not. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Your sister will bleed you dry. I refused and told them my money was for my kids (5f,5m ,4m ,2f). Professor Emeritass [75] Why should you have to bankrupt yourself to help your family?. You don’t need to subject yourself to emotional harm and manipulation, regardless of the age of the perpetrator. Let them be pissed. Give your daughter the money and let her pay of her student debt that she definitely has because of you. They recently decided for IVF I guess? My brother and his wife invited me (20f) to dinner and asked me to pay for their IVF treatment. But you also shouldn’t exclude them from family time. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think that I might be the asshole because I do want what’s best for her but I also think what’s best is for her to get to know us as well. That’s what one sister is struggling with when she took to Reddit ‘s “ AITA ” forum to share her dilemma. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if. I don't want him with me because of bitterness over our divorce and situations surrounding it. 1K votes, 393 comments. My sister (28F) put together a big birthday party for my niece's first birthday. Now I dont have those sources of income. My wife was abused as a child and is desperate to earn their approval. In addition she wants us to pay for treatment and all living expenses. She’s been taken off treatment, and we’re letting her just be a kid while she still can. they’re paying for it. That is your siblings. Read this before contacting the mod team. Your sister is cutting you off. I am a private nanny (in California) and let me break the cost down for you because we ain’t cheap. Not to be morbid, but cancer is cancer, and there was always a chance it spreads elsewhere and you don’t have any bit of a decent outlook. She told my parents who then called me to their house, telling me how disappointed in me they are for not supporting my sister's relationship with Ben. In addition she wants us to pay for treatment and all living expenses. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I feel like i’m the asshole for not letting my nieces inside and should’ve let them in or done anything different. I (M35) have 2 sisters that I'm close with, I also have a niece (Leah), Leah's 16 and after my ex wife decided to split up and divorce due to inferitility problems that lasted for 5 years. Every year since my nieces were born, I have had the issue with my sister. She later venmo'ed me asking for the money. This way my wife can get what she needs to repair her dress the best she can. If this is real, I would just bet on a teenager that really does not understand what a serious topic pregnancy is to a couple trying to get pregnant for years. She never comes and sees her kids unless she says she’s taking them out to dinner and a movie even though my nieces and nephews tell me they just get left in a house basement while their parents are upstairs doing god knows what. AITA for not telling my parents about the award and that I won? My (20F) sister (18F) when she was 12 years old, was diagnosed with cancer. Apparently I'm a selfish asshole for making it impossible for her to go to her dream school. I’m not nasty to them, I just don’t like them. According to OP: stepdaughter asked her mom, who then asked OP, who then said no. 40 year old male here. It was ok for 6 months. My ex has been asking for me to contribute to his groceries. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. It’s her money not yours. Once I realized she was just taking advantage of me and I stood up for myself I became the bad guy. My niece and nephews could care less what I give them for their birthdays or Christmas. Give your daughter the money and let her pay of her student debt that she definitely has because of you. Now CPS was taking away her rights for not working her plan, and she had given my name to them as a relative who would adopt them. AITA for "announcing" that my dad's not paying my college tuition My aunt and uncle are paying for my cousins college. You may be buying a house with a shared history, but you are still buying a house, the deed will be transferred to you and no one else. 23 sty 2023. Here’s your script for “Mom”: “I get that you’re close to [his name]. I don't want him with me because of bitterness over our divorce and situations surrounding it. Here’s your script for “Mom”: “I get that you’re close to [his name]. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Me. AITA for not wanting my nieces and nephews at. Read this before contacting the mod team. I recently got a promotion at work and a pretty substantial raise and I was able to dramatically increase the limits on my credit cards. AITA for refusing to pay for my childhood's bully cancer treatment? So apparently my former classmate Brad (26M) has been diagnosed with a rare form of Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma and his family is raising 50k on GoFundMe to help cover the cost of his treatment. Still, if they're not paying, helping to fund treatment for a sick . UPDATE : I told it to him straight. The only one here who isn’t the AH is Lily herself, because she’s the biggest victim in this entire unfortunate scenario. Usually, study participants do not pay the costs for the treatments, They may have to pay transportation and hotel costs if they live far away, but they do not pay for the medications/surgery/therapy. He is going to need to get a scholarship or loan to make it feasible. Yesterday he picked us up a couple ready meals on his way home for dinner that day, Mac n Cheese for me, meatballs for him. She believes we should take our daughter's words at face value and assume she no longer wants the money. Now she's cancer free and according to the relatives, since she's such a great person and you are the monster, they should absolutely be welcoming her into their homes just to get her away from you. There are lots of options for appearing to be gold but not being. 27 maj 2023. When they do, you can become foster parents, take them in, and receive a monthly stipend to support them. AITA for not paying for my niece's future hospital bills and refusing to talk to her parents? I (49F) have a big family in my mother's side, my mother has 14 siblings (7. original sound - Reddit Videos. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. This is a sticky situation. It's devastating and words can't express how we feel. There's a lot of baggage there that isn't going to suddenly be erased. You were told this would extend the cats life with 2 extra good years, not cure the cancer. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I am only paying $175 to my friend who beat cancer for the food that I ate, and not the $200 that she wants me to pay for. I don't take her out to lunch or buy her Christmas presents. The tuition is the most expensive part. He’s allowed to forget the things he did for kids, he didn’t do for his niece. If she had told me I would have kept her secret and we would have still been able to talk secretly. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: the action I took that should be judged is how I don’t want to pay for nieces expenses if she were to join my family’s trip 2) this might make me the. . heat pump installation horseshoe bay tx